Ah, Valentine’s Day. A day for lovers, for flowers. For dates, for kisses, and for chocolate. But also for clichéd moments and for major corporations.
We women are always made to feel as though we should expect something on that “special” day: roses and chocolates, wining and dining, and heartfelt declarations of love. Thousands will propose, thousands will get married, and thousands of children will be conceived.
At the same time, however, thousands of women (and probably some men, as well) will feel alone, unloved, or let down. Many will have a girls’ night with rom-coms and ice cream and booze. Some will even suffer the horribleness of a breakup on what is supposed to be the most love-filled day.
In case you couldn’t tell, I am not at all a fan of Valentine’s Day. There is absolutely nothing about it that I like.
Now, before you ask, no, it’s not because I’m single. I’m not. And it’s not because I’ve never had a boyfriend who tries to romance me and gives me roses and chocolates. I have. And it’s not because I haven’t had the romantic dinner and hotel room all done up. I have.
And still, I’m not a fan.
Maybe it’s because I always feel like any gesture done on that day isn’t as sincere as it could be if it was done on any other day. I feel like we, as a society, put too much pressure on the male (or female, depending on the relationship) to make this one day perfect for the other person.
But are they doing it because they love you and genuinely want to, or because they feel as though it’s what they should do?
I honestly feel that having my guy show up on a random Tuesday with flowers is much more heartfelt and special. Or having breakfast in bed made for me on a weekend. Or maybe taken out to dinner and a movie on a Friday night. I find those much more special, since there is no expectation, not pressure. It would simply be because he wanted to do something for me.
And in case you’re wondering, red roses are too clichéd for me. Blue ones, on the other hand, make me happy. White ones as well. And I’d rather get one rose than a bouquet. I find it prettier that way. Orchids are always a great (but expensive!!) choice. And if you’re really looking to go all out (although I hope you’re not), diamonds and sapphires would definitely make me happy.
I don’t know when Valentines Day became such a commercial event. I’m sure at some point it was a day to tell your loved ones you cared and maybe make your significant other smile with a gesture of some sort. But over time it’s gotten to the point where if there isn’t any roses and jewelry involved, the man has failed to deliver.
I think I’m just gonna say that my boyfriend is lucky that I don’t really care for all this hoopla. Don’t get me wrong, I’m stereotypical enough that I would like to spend the day with him, maybe watch a movie, get some regular, every day, non-special food, and make out lots. If he wants to be nice and get me flower (singular, not bouquet!!), he’s more than welcome to. But if he’s busy or if something comes up, I won’t throw a tantrum or get upset.
And to be completely honest, I don’t like the idea of wasting incredible amount of money for overpriced flowers and dinner at an overcrowded restaurant when I’d be happier to do it four days later for my birthday. Also, I prefer bigger presents for my bday over smaller presents over two days. Call me selfish if you want, but it works for me. And if you think about it, it’s pretty fair for him, too. It saves him the money of having to do two days so soon after Xmas.
Can’t help him with my bday, though. I love celebrating that.
- Valentine’s Day Facts & Superstitions (proflowers.com)
- Why a fast food Valentine’s would be okay (examiner.com)
- Valentine’s Day – Red Roses A Symbol of Love (lindasflowers.wordpress.com)
- Celebrating Valentine’s Day: For Rich or For Poor (savings.com)
- Valentine’s Day around the World (isaacloo.wordpress.com)
- 3 Unique Ways to Say “I Love You” on Valentine’s Day (doreelynnuguid.wordpress.com)
- Most Interesting Valentine’s Day Facts, By the Numbers (proflowers.com)